How Do I Know If I’m Really Polyamorous?
approx. 10 minute reading time Becoming actively polyamorous, for many of us, isn’t a simple choice. If you’re involved with anyone, you have to make sure they’re a willing (and ideally eager) partner...
View ArticleRSVP Needed: Do You Have Responsive Desire?
Tell me if this sounds familiar: “It’s not that I don’t like sex, or don’t want to have it at all. It just takes me a while to get there.” We get sold a lot of lies about sexuality and how we “should”...
View Article9 Myths About Sex That Are Just Plain Wrong—and Harmful
approx. reading time: 10 minutes Imagine if you took a cooking class, but instead of learning to follow a recipe or how ingredients interact, you got a lot of lectures about the ways that different...
View ArticleWhy We Should Talk to Young People About Kink & BDSM
approx. 5 minutes reading time Did your heart just seize up a little reading that title? It’s not surprising—we live in a society where we’d rather give kids fear-based “abstinence only” propaganda...
View ArticleWhat Is Compersion in Polyamory—and Why Don’t I Have It?
approx. 9 minute reading time Taking your first steps into polyamory is a lot like being American and planning to move to the UK. Everything is just different enough to throw you off, and you quickly...
View ArticleKeep Our Light Shining: Queer Community Self-Care in Violent Times
We’re not okay. At a time when our biggest worry should be how to manage or avoid holiday season stress, our queer community is under attack. The Club Q shooting in Colorado Springs just before...
View ArticleWhen the Holidays Are Hard: How to Care for Your Mental Health
approx. 8 minute reading time It’s hard enough to deal with the stress and overwhelm of the winter holiday season when you’re excited for it and ready to celebrate. When the holidays are a time of...
View ArticleAn Open Letter to Darren Aronofsky About “The Whale”
Some time ago, we began to see posts going around on social media about your new film, The Whale, starring Brendan Fraser in what’s being hailed as his “comeback role” as Charlie, a 600 lb. recluse and...
View Article10 Radical Ways to Be a True Fat Ally
estimated reading time ~5 minutes Real talk: Our deeply fat-hating, fatphobic culture isn’t going to heal itself. And as valuable as the tireless work of fat activists is, it’s also not enough to...
View ArticleThe Transformative Power of Sexual Fantasies
approx. 6 minutes reading time Let me be honest– even as a sex educator, I never thought sexual fantasy would actually improve my sex life. But it has, and I want to share that vulnerable experience...
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